We have a lot of work to do to get our message out there as it can, at times be a complex one. Not many people see adoption as a way to make a family, not in the same way as say IVF or even surrogacy. And because of that, children languish in care until they are too old to be adopted. In fact only 1% of children over 8 are adopted. it was this fact that brought Michelle into our lives. She noticed that other charities didn’t bring up this fact and felt she wanted more people to know about it. Michelle herself is the mother of two girls, one of Fijian origin, both of whom were adopted at the same time in the UK.
Both girls were also adopted when they were ‘older’ which is unusual in the UK. The eldest daughter was 8 when adopted, long past the time when most people would even look at a child in care. Michelle tells us that this girl, unsurprisingly, had very low self-esteem to begin with and meeting her new family was the start of a long period of confidence building. Three years on, Michelle reports that much progress has been made. Now eleven, her daughter has found her artistic side, enjoying everything from styling hair to flower arranging, something for which she has won competitions. The scared little girl is on her way to flourishing as a teenager. Meanwhile her younger half-sister who was 4 when she came to the family is now an adventurous child with a wicked sense of humour, a girl who loves writing and has won awards at school for her work. Michelle wanted us to know this and she wanted to help us get the message out there. So she told us she was doing a 10K run on behalf of Adopt a Better Way. We were thrilled to know her and delighted with her support. Michelle raised £350.00 for which we are incredibly grateful. “Most charities don’t even mention older children,” she told us. “It’s as if they don’t exist. You are giving them a voice and I wanted to help people see that ALL children need a family unit, security and support in their lives. It’s about a family, not a baby.”
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